EP32: Shift Your Mindset to Create Guilt-Free Correction Conversations

DTD Episode 32 Show Notes

Shift Your Mindset to Create
Guilt-Free Correction Conversations

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You have the right and the duty to lead. Too often leaders feel bad for their teams and choose to hide from the drama, hide from what’s going wrong rather than addressing it through good correction conversations.

Are you a leader who lets things go and then explodes?  If this is you you know that without consistent follow through and consequences nothing actually changes. Your team rides out the storm and then it’s back to business as usual.

Or, perhaps you just keep it all in and feel overwhelmed, frustrated and resentful as you try to fix and swoop in to fix. Perhaps you’ve resigned yourself to the belief that if you want it done right you have to do it yourself.

Many of the clients I’ve worked with have had fear, anxiety, heart to serve that stands in the way of holding their team accountable – Avoiding correction causes drama and you get less work done!

A couple of situations I’ve helped clients through:

  • X-ray tech let certification drop
  • Office manager in bankruptcy and possibly stealing but the owner didn’t want to put any controls in place. Didn’t want her to think he didn’t trust her.

Correction Conversations:

  • Seeks to tweak the performance of an employee
  • Catalyst to Change
  • Can be part of

–      Discipline

–      Performance Improvement

–      Performance Management

–      Or Ad Hoc

The New Mindset

  • I Want You to Be Successful
  • I Will Define What Success Is
  • I Will Communicate that Definition to You
  • You Will Have a Choice
  • I Hope You Choose Well

Related Episodes:

Episode 26 5 Keys to Igniting Great Correction Conversations

Episode 28 5 Keys to a Life of Healthy Boundaries

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EP26: 5 Keys to Igniting Great Correction Conversations

DTD Episode 26 Show Notes
5 Keys to Igniting a Great Correction Conversation

Click to download the Show Notes for Defeat the Drama Podcast Episode 25
26picMaintain Control: You have two main objectives under this category. Maintain control of the feel of the meeting and of the topics. Keep it Calm and don’t let your meeting get high jacked. For you, deep breaths, know your intentions are good and stay focused on pulling the topics back to your agenda. Employees engaging in stay stuck strategies will use a variety of techniques to avoid the conversation you have in mind.   I always visualize an expressway with off ramps. You want to stay on the expressway and they will keep trying to veer you towards an exit. No matter what they do or say, bring it back to the topic at hand.   Use phrases like, “It’s really important that we use our time effectively here. I need to spell out some next steps for you.” Or, “we aren’t here to talk about that right now. I will make a note to look into that later. For now, we are here to talk about you.”

State Your Desire for Their Success: An employee who wishes to stay stuck will often assume that you are just out to get them when you initiate a correction conversation of any kind. Help to put them at ease. You might not be successful but at least give it a try. Assure them that you are on their side. You want them to be successful.   You are hoping that they hear your message today. You will outline a plan to help them be successful. You hope that they hear you today, take the appropriate action and achieve.

Define Success: As a leader, you get to define what actions and behaviors create success in your business. Often employees desire to define success themselves. They want to design their day, show up when it’s convenient, work or not as they’d like, all while maintaining their job. Don’t let that happen. Be firm and let the employee know exactly what is required to be successful in their job. Outline where they are falling short.

Lay out a Plan: Come with a plan prepared. What is the definition of success. Where is the employee falling short and what must they do to achieve success. Outline the exact path they can take to achieve success.   If it’s an attitude they can choose to shift that immediately. If it’s aptitude, then outline the process they will go through to gain the necessary skills. Is it a class or should the shadow a fellow employee? Are there some practice sessions to do online or is it just a matter of reviewing the documentation in your procedures manual?

Document the plan ahead of time and bring it to the meeting to share in detail. Provide them with a copy and ask if they have questions. Offer your support and assure them that you are there if they have questions. Then release the action to them.

Let Go! Your employees have free will and so do you. If you give them the opportunity to be successful and they utilize their free will to make the right choice – GREAT! If they don’t, you have free will too. Do what’s right for your business, yourself and your customers.

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