EP41: I’ve Recommended Better Processes But Leaders Won’t Implement Them

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I’ve Recommended Better Processes but Leaders Won’t Implement Them 

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DefeatYourDramaJen from Fort Worth, TX:

I work in purchasing and previously worked in Customer Service where we made enhancements that saved time and money. In my transition, it was very clear we had broken systems and areas where we are very inefficient. I have submitted process improvement recommendations several times but they go through an approval process where I am not part of that discussion. (Leadership team) It takes some money to fix the issues. Our leadership team worried about hard cost savings but not savings where it’s difficult to justify/capture. But at the same time, they are having everyone manually handle tactical issues and being inefficient. Help 🙂

Jen, so sorry to hear about your struggles. Let’s get you some customized solutions. I am an efficiency junky so I understand your desire to improve your work processes and systems!

As always, In the Defeat Your Drama segments, I will provide solutions based on the information provided. I will obviously not have full details so will provide customized strategies based on what you share. Always consider your own specific circumstances before taking any action. These are suggestions not guarantees.

#1 Generate Some Creative Calculations

It sounds like your company is very interested in attaching dollars and cents to their decisions. There are times when, as you say, it is more difficult to capture the true savings. You’ll still want to make a business case for improving the processes so think creatively about other calculations you can generate that would illustrate the need for improved efficiency. For instance, you mention all of the manual tasks. How about calculating the money they are spending on the additional time required for these manual tasks? Use an average wage and multiply by the additional minutes or hours per person per day. If they just look at salaries as fixed costs per day they may miss this. There isn’t actually a cost savings it’s just a way of thinking about how they are spending their compensation dollars. Are ineffective processes the best use of those dollars? As an example, I often have clients calculate the cost of ineffective meetings. Tallying time spent for the wages in the room generates some eye opening results! This concept is the same. Not a cost savings just better utilization of dollars spent.

What else could be done with the captured time? Perhaps there are some revenue generating activities that have been put on hold because there is a lack of time. Multiply the revenue that could be generated by focusing those compensation expenditures on those activities instead.

You get the picture. Just think outside the box and find alternate ways to calculate costs and lost revenues to make the expenditure on new systems more enticing.

#2 Emphasize Your Unique Perspective

It sounds like the fact that you have worked in both customer service and purchasing has helped you have a unique perspective on the flow of work inside the organization. You are perhaps able to identify additional opportunities for improvement.

You don’t say how you are sharing your ideas now. You need a strong advocate. Is there someone on the leadership team you could speak with individually to explain your unique perspective? Share with them that you would like to utilize this perspective to benefit the organization as a whole. Give he or she a couple of examples you’ve identified.

Perhaps between your unique perspective and your creative calculations they would allow you to make a presentation to the leadership team yourself. You could then answer questions and connect with them around the topic. The focus would be on your enthusiasm and desire to improve efficiency and profits.

#3 Focus on What’s in Your Control

When faced with a frustration I always have clients figure out what is in their control and what isn’t. Find creative ways to solve the problems from a direction that’s in your control. Let go of the rest. So, you will try these techniques for being heard. You will create a business case for the improvements. You will see if you are able to present your ideas yourself. If that doesn’t work is there anything else in your control? At a minimum, you control your reaction to the ineffective processes and manual tasks. Being frustrated by them doesn’t help the situation it just zaps your energy. So, you can be frustrated or accept what is true about the tasks you must do. Either way they are there for the time being.

If you stopped focusing on the inefficiency would you be able to find more satisfaction at work? The goal is to make what is currently frustrating you as palatable as possible. If they won’t change the processes you have to live with them or move on. For your own sanity, avoid the feeling of frustration that arises from something you cannot change.

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EP40: My Co-Worker is Constantly Complaining

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Defeat YOUR Drama: My Co-Worker is Constantly Complaining

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Catarina from Scotland, U.K.

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DefeatYourDramaCatarina:

Now, my question is, how do you reach out to someone at work who thinks they are doing “all these tasks”‘ to the point that certain tasks that they are supposed to be doing aren’t done as much as they should? What should be added is that this person has complained high and wide about other people not doing some of their tasks. She also seems to have plenty of time for gossip with others and sitting about just looking at what everyone is doing. She doesn’t really seem to have that concept that there are people who work even harder than herself. It seems to be all “score-keeping” on her part and she doesn’t seem to get that there might be a valid reason for people’s actions sometime. All too frequently, she “reports” to me with all this information, even though we are in the same position (I have a couple of years more experience than her), so its not like I can’t fix any problems any more than she can. My impression of her is that nobody is “safe” from her scrutiny and hence, I wouldn’t trust her with any important information, if I can help it. Thankfully, because I have had my job for longer than she has I am more knowledgeable and experienced than her. That means that I am not worried in regards to any problems that she might create, but I just find her very tiresome and annoying. I want to find a constructive way, to make her realize what she is doing?

Catarina, so sorry to hear about your struggles. Let’s get you some customized solutions.

As always, In the Defeat Your Drama segments, I will provide solutions based on the information provided. I will obviously not have full details so will provide customized strategies based on what you share. Always consider your own specific circumstances before taking any action. These are suggestions not guarantees.

#1 Set a Boundary

Acknowledge that you understand that she is frustrated. You could say something like, “It sounds like you are still feeling frustrated.” Then let her know you understand but it’s difficult because there is nothing you can do to help her. You want to do a good job and feel that you don’t have time to be the ear for her frustration when, between the two of you, there is really no solution. It doesn’t feel like an effective use of either of your time and you are both so busy.

Emphasize that you try to focus on just doing your best and don’t really pay attention to what others are doing. Share that you’ve found that to be the best strategy to assure that you are productive and that that is your main goal; to be as productive as possible yourself.

Request that she not take you away from your work to discuss things out of your control so that you can focus getting your own job done to the best of your ability.

Chances are you will need to remind her of your request more than once. Keep at it. It won’t be fun to complain to you if you don’t acknowledge her or respond with sympathy. She’ll give up after a while.

#2 Focus on the Positive

Complaining of any sort is annoying when it is on going. You also might want to communicate a request or boundary around your desire to stay positive at work. Share that you like to bring positive energy and feel positive at work. While there are frustrations most days you choose to focus on what is working well and on feeling good at work. Let her know that using you as her complaint sounding board is bringing you down and that you prefer that she find another outlet.

Depending on the relationship you have with her you might go on to suggest that she try to focus on the positive as well. Perhaps you can point out that you feel team members work hard and pitch in to get things done. Share a few examples with her and then move on.

#3 More Globally Can You Use Check Lists?

You don’t say anything about the work that you do but it seems that there are a repeating set of tasks that need to be completed daily or weekly. Sometimes implementing a checklist system is helpful. I know that you aren’t the leader but perhaps you can make a recommendation and offer to work on the project. Where there are repeating daily or weekly tasks you can have checklists used by the team. Each person can have their own checklist, thus, documenting the division of work, or the team can share one checklist per cycle. As tasks are completed each person could check off the item they’ve done along with initials. That way the amount of work each person is doing can be tracked. And the added bonus, you can be sure that everything gets done. You won’t be relying on everyone remembering the list.

#4 Talk to Your Boss

I would treat this option as a last resort. Hopefully the other steps will work. If, however, the situation is unmanageable, you feel that productivity is suffering significantly or other team member’s jobs might be in jeopardy from her false accusations you might need to bring in leaders. If you must utilize this strategy I would start by sharing the steps you’ve already taken to try to improve the situation on your own. Emphasize that you are not trying to be a tattletale but that you are concerned about productivity and team morale.

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EP39: To What Do You Commit? 6 Surefire Strategies to Help you Keep Your Word

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To What Do You Commit? 6 Surefire Strategies to Help you Keep Your Word

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If you are of a certain age I’m sure you remember the Seinfeld episode that took Jerry and Elaine to the car rental place. If not, you’ve probably seen it in reruns or on a best of show.

In the episode Jerry shares his frustration with the representative, as the car he reserved is not available. He says, “You know how to make the reservation you just don’t know how to hold the reservation. That’s really the most important part. Anyone can just make them.”

We watch and we laugh. It’s funny when it’s not us.

Now, replace the word reservation with the word commitment. You know how to make the commitment you just don’t know how to hold the commitment. That’s really the most important part. Anyone can make a commitment.

How often are you failing to keep commitments in your life?

I’ve worked with many clients who find themselves sliding down that slippery slope away from good integrity. Away from a place where giving their word means something.

Often it begins with a need to please; a need to be the hero, to feel helpful. You want people to know you are there for them and you begin to say yes. Yes, to every request that comes your way.

And a funny thing about those requests, the more you say yes the quicker requests come and from more sources. Somehow the universe knows the person who will say yes without question to any request for help.

Can you stay late to finish up that project? Yes
Can you pick up my dry cleaning? Yes
Can you… fill in the blank with any emergency…………Yes

The need to make others happy in the moment wins over what is realistic and the slide down that slippery slope begins.

Over time the reflex reaction has you saying yes without putting any thought into whether you can follow through or not.

If you do make a quick assessment it’s about how you will delay your own work or skip that workout you really need.

It’s more important to seem helpful in the moment than to take the time to determine whether there’s even a remote possibility that the commitment will be fulfilled. Before you know it you’re that stressed out person feeling overwhelmed, resentful and lacking integrity.

Instead, be a person of your word. The first step to being a person who keeps commitments is being intentional about to what you commit.

Years ago I created this phrase and found myself using it often with clients
Keeping your word starts with being intentional about what you commit to and requires saying no where you must.
~ Kirsten Ross

Here are some strategies to help you avoid the reflex of the automatic yes as you work that muscle of saying no where you must:

• Buy Yourself Time to Think
• Create Policy Statements
• Shift the Focus Back to You
• Know Your Priorities and Stick to Them
• Keep it Simple
• Tackle Easy Situations First

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EP38: Too Many Angry Customers! How Can I Respond?

DYD Episode 38 Show Notes
Defeat YOUR Drama:

Too Many Angry Customers! How Can I Respond?
Matt from New York

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Matt from New York wrote in:

I work in a high paced environment and often our customers are very demanding.   They can get really condescending and very loud. Often they are angry. Sometimes they even swear. My boss says that we can refuse to serve them if they get too out of hand. I have a tough time staying professional. I want to yell back. Sometimes I do but my boss has said that’s unacceptable. I get so mad. How can I respond without losing my job?

Matt, so sorry to hear about your struggles. Let’s get you some customized solutions.

As always, In the Defeat Your Drama segments, I will provide solutions based on the information provided. I will obviously not have full details so will provide customized strategies based on what you share. Always consider your own specific circumstances before taking any action. These are suggestions not guarantees.

#1 Don’t Take it Personally

I know it’s hard. They are yelling at you or treating you like you aren’t intelligent. It feels very personal. Keep telling yourself that they aren’t angry at you. They are just frustrated at the situation. Picture the negative energy of their anger passing around you rather than at you. You don’t need to defend yourself. Try to hear past their method of communication, the loud or condescending tone, and instead focus on their message. Look for the nuggets of information that will help you help them. What are they frustrated about? What do they need? How can you help them?

You can learn more tips about focusing on message over method from episode #31 http://goo.gl/x9uuFa

#2 Maintain a Friendly Tone and Body Language

You already know this but it bears repeating; less than 10% of our communication is from the words we use. We convey most of what we think via our non-verbal cues like body language, tone of voice, volume and speed of speaking. Anytime you are communicating with someone who is showing frustration or anger by elevating their voice or the speed of conversation, the number one goal must be to keep your own tone level. Speak a little slower than normal and keep your volume quieter. If you raise your voice to match theirs they will just elevate their volume to “win” the volume wars. And it may also make them more aggravated. An angry person doesn’t necessarily think to themselves, “oh, they must be speaking louder because I was speaking louder.” No, on the contrary they generally decide that you are yelling at them and forget to consider why.

So, continue to smile and affirm that you are there to help. Keep the pace of your speaking slow and your volume low. Hopefully they will hear you and match your tone.

#3 Be their Hero

Let them vent. A listening ear will often go a long way. Show empathy first. Acknowledge their frustration and assure them that you are there to help. Reiterate that you want to fully understand the issue so that you can find the best course of action to resolve the issue as quickly as possible. Restate what you hear them saying and ask if there is anything else. Once you get a sense of the full picture outline the steps you will take to resolve the situation and make a commitment to follow through.

#4 Do Set Boundaries if They Are Swearing or Won’t Settle Down

If you’ve tried all of the tactics and they have moved into the world of disrespect and abuse your boss has given you license to end the conversation. In extreme circumstances I suggest you follow through. Begin by reiterating again your desire to help them. Ask them to take a few minutes to calm down a bit. Tell them it’s hard to hear what they need when they are yelling or swearing.

#5 Talk to Your Boss About the More Global Issue: What is causing all of the customer frustration?

The fact that this happens often begs the question; why do you have so many angry customers? Ask your boss for permission to work on that as a team. You can lead the charge or ask your boss to head it up. As a team create a list of the main causes of customer frustration. You will see patterns. Are you missing deadlines? Is quality not good? Is communication after a hiccup lacking? Are they waiting in line too long?

Figure out the main causes of customer anger and then engage in some simple process improvement as a team.   In Episode 13 I covered a very simple process improvement strategy that can be easily adopted. Here’s the link: http://goo.gl/MDv646

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EP 37: Defriending – Conquering Their Stay Stuck Strategies

Defriending – Conquering Their Stay Stuck Strategies

This Defeat the Drama episode is about defriending and how to handle it with your team.

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EP36: Defensiveness – Conquering Their Stay Stuck Strategies

Defensivenes – Conquering Their Stay Stuck Strategies


5_keys_to_healthy_boundaries_episodeThis Defeat the Drama episode is about defensiveness and how to handle it with your team.

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EP33: I Hired My Friend and It’s Not Working Out! Now What?

Shift Your Mindset to Create
Guilt-Free Correction Conversations

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Linda from Florida wrote in:

One of my really good friends had been struggling to find a job. I had a position open up and wanted to help her out so I hired her. It’s turned into a nightmare! Whenever I ask her to do anything she just kind of chuckles. If I tell her she needs to get more work done she gets defensive. She’s treating her co-workers terribly. She throws our friendship in their faces and acts like she’s better than them because she’s great friends with the boss. She thinks she’s all powerful and can do whatever she wants.   Meanwhile my boss is on me to fix this situation ASAP! He wants me to fire her. I don’t want to hurt our friendship but I love my job and know she can’t keep doing what she’s doing. Help!

Linda, so sorry to hear about your struggles. Let’s get you some customized solutions.

As always, In the Defeat Your Drama segments, I will provide solutions based on the information provided. I will obviously not have full details so will provide customized strategies based on what you share. Always consider your own specific circumstances before taking any action. These are suggestions not guarantees.

#1 Have a Conversation about Separating Work and Friendship

You don’t say whether you had a conversation about separating work and friendship already. Often I find that my clients don’t up front because they assume that their friend will just know to respect them at work. They believe that they won’t take advantage of the relationship. And then, as you are experiencing, they are shocked and have clean up to do.

If you did have the conversation ahead of time she obviously didn’t take it to heart. So, either way, it is time! You must pull her into a private meeting and explain that you love her as a friend but that work and friendship are separate. As a leader you cannot give her preferential treatment. And she must meet the expectations of the job to continue working there. Explain how disruptive it is to the entire team for her to be less productive. It hurts morale when her co-workers feel that she is getting special treatment and they are the ones who pick up the slack for her.

Explain how important your job is to you and that part of being successful as a leader is creating a team that works well together.   Let her know that your boss is on you to correct the situation and that you must make things better one way or another.

Reiterate your desire for her to continue working there as a successful member of the team. Also let her know that you will have to follow through with discipline just like you would with any employee if she doesn’t start performing the way you need her to. Tell her it would not be pleasant for you but at work the job comes first.

#2 Communicate Clear Expectation:

Describe and document exactly what she must do to be successful in her position. Offer your support. Does she need any additional training or other assistance? Let her know that the responsibility is hers to make the right choices. Reiterate that you want her to be successful, you want her to continue working with you.

Also emphasize that she must be respectful of her co-workers.   She cannot act like she gets preferential treatment because of the relationship she has with you. Remind her that you will treat her like the rest of the team at work.

#3 Create a Phrase

If this follows the pattern I’ve seen many times in the past you will need to keep reminding her that friendship and work are separate. She may continue to push for preferential treatment and act wounded when you don’t give it. Rather than re-hashing the entire conversation over and over I recommend coming up with a short phrase that means the entire conversation.   It’s a really effective way to communicate a long stream of information in a few seconds.   At the end of your reset conversation you can come up with a phrase together. Often my clients will use something light or funny to help bring levity to what might otherwise become a stressful moment. I once had two clients, as a for instance, use the phrase, “Your beating your drum.” It was an inside joke that made them laugh. So, instead of rehashing a frustrating conversation they had a quick chuckle, each got the meaning and moved on.

#4 Meet with the Team

You aren’t hiding the fact that you have a friendship with this employee. Everyone knows. And currently they believe that she gets preferential treatment as a result of that relationship. Have a team meeting and just say what’s on everyone’s mind. You have a friendship outside of work. And then commit to them to treat her no differently. Affirm that you will keep the relationship and work separate.

#5 Give her the Freedom to Choose

Unfortunately, you can’t dictate the outcome of this situation. She gets to choose how she reacts. She can hear you, understand your predicament and choose to improve her performance or she can decide to use a stay stuck strategy that keeps her behaving poorly and ultimately losing her job. The reality is, she may not own up to her role in the negative outcome if that happens. She may choose to blame you. People have an amazing ability to skew their perspectives to serve them.

And, there may be a reason that she was having difficulty finding work.

If she doesn’t follow through as she must you will have to do what is difficult. If she is wiling to use your friendship as a way to skate through a job she may not have been the friend you thought she was. Don’t let her put your job in jeopardy over her bad choices. She may be mad at you for a bit or the relationship may be different forever. Take this as a lesson learned.

My hope is that she will make the right choice and hears you and respects your wishes!

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EP32: Shift Your Mindset to Create Guilt-Free Correction Conversations

DTD Episode 32 Show Notes

Shift Your Mindset to Create
Guilt-Free Correction Conversations

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You have the right and the duty to lead. Too often leaders feel bad for their teams and choose to hide from the drama, hide from what’s going wrong rather than addressing it through good correction conversations.

Are you a leader who lets things go and then explodes?  If this is you you know that without consistent follow through and consequences nothing actually changes. Your team rides out the storm and then it’s back to business as usual.

Or, perhaps you just keep it all in and feel overwhelmed, frustrated and resentful as you try to fix and swoop in to fix. Perhaps you’ve resigned yourself to the belief that if you want it done right you have to do it yourself.

Many of the clients I’ve worked with have had fear, anxiety, heart to serve that stands in the way of holding their team accountable – Avoiding correction causes drama and you get less work done!

A couple of situations I’ve helped clients through:

  • X-ray tech let certification drop
  • Office manager in bankruptcy and possibly stealing but the owner didn’t want to put any controls in place. Didn’t want her to think he didn’t trust her.

Correction Conversations:

  • Seeks to tweak the performance of an employee
  • Catalyst to Change
  • Can be part of

–      Discipline

–      Performance Improvement

–      Performance Management

–      Or Ad Hoc

The New Mindset

  • I Want You to Be Successful
  • I Will Define What Success Is
  • I Will Communicate that Definition to You
  • You Will Have a Choice
  • I Hope You Choose Well

Related Episodes:

Episode 26 5 Keys to Igniting Great Correction Conversations

Episode 28 5 Keys to a Life of Healthy Boundaries

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